There is a view that Asperger's Syndrome is more common in these times. Perhaps
the real syndrome is people who are so self-obsessed that they are
incapable of taking the feelings of others into account - the me now, my
needs, my wants 'syndrome' where old-fashioned courtesy, consideration,
not to mention kindness goes out of the window.
do something which I don't find convenient or which does not give me
'warm fluffies' or 'meet my needs,' or which intrudes on the boundaries I
use to control my world? Heavens above, what are you thinking? Perhaps
it is only when people who live this way find that their children grow
up to treat them this way, they will realise there was and is a reason
for 'old-fashioned' courtesy, respect and 'doing the right thing.'
As that song went about a father who was too busy for his son and when
he had time for his son, his son had none for him. The most powerful
messages a child receives are non-verbal. If you don't take the feelings
of others into account then the child when
grown will not. If you are not courteous and kind then your children
will not be. If you only do what 'suits you' and 'works for you' then so
will your children. You will reap what you sow so be careful of which
seeds you select.
What you give out is what you get back and
what you do unto others will be done unto you. What a pity that so many,
perhaps particularly in this age, lack self-awareness - or rather,
mistake self-obsession and self-focus for self-awareness.
difference is simple. Self-obsession leaves no room for anyone but Self;
self focus leaves little room for anyone but Self and Self-awareness
leaves a lot of room for others and their needs and allows the
individual to know why they do what they do and say what they say and to
take responsibility for everything that happens.
A child when
grown may, as adult, go through these times but they will not be the
character of the person and they will get to the other side. A child
when brought up this way will have its character made by it and is
unlikely to become anything other. Perhaps that is an often overlooked
demonstration of karma at work.